Jun 23, 2022
Today, I'm interviewing my
friend and client, Mopelola Gloria Fagbemi. Gloria is an amazing
woman who has a very interesting story when it comes to divorce and
how that led to finding a job that brings her lots of joy. We get
to hear about her experience with meeting Simon Sinek and how that
impacted her life, as well as, what she's doing to create greater
levels of prosperity in her life. Enjoy.
She shares with us her
insights:
- When I told him the money, he, you know, they
approved - wasn't enough to cover. You know, babysitting and the
private school that the other two kids were already going to and
then baby sitting wants the new baby King do. And it was like
"Okay, like lady, you should know that going forward life was
changed drastically. Your life would never bethe same. I think, it
really hurt me. But at the same time it set me on a really good
trajectory to know that - "Okay, you need to start making changes,
almost immediately. And then, so one thing this whole mindset that
has taught me is also not to judge people...
- But one thing I try to teach my kids now that
I've learned throughout all this experience I think comes from my
Dad. And it's needs and wants and opportunity costs. And some
costs. And there was a time like it was always in the house
somewhere where everybody could see another. So it's needs and
wants, opportunity costs, sunk cost and there's one more. Courtesy
costs nothing. And because sometimes, you know, you invest so much
in things that you just want to keep going. When the real thing you
should do is actually to just consider all the costs you've spent
and just make the right decision going forward. So hopefully, my
expectation is that I've been able to impart that to my kids too.
Because it's been some of the reasons why I've done some of the
things that brought me joy...
- Oh, that one is easy. It's that, now I can
speak up and I'm not perfect at it, yet. But I can almost sense my
inner voice. And I believe now that I had it as a kid but you know,
people just made me not do it and not be that person. Because all
it is at the end of the day is you just speaking your truth and
doing your truth. So if there's nothing else I'm proud of in all of
this journey than that. Yeah, so excited that I found it. It's like
you're a kid again but you're an adult.
- I think it makes such a difference. That in our
lives, and I think that might also have been the turning point
where now that I've become the person watching loves the job that
you know, that should join us. Eventhough that wasn't my goal, but
I was - "Okay, you know what, yeah I love who we serve. We serve
the vulnerable people in the state of Maryland. We serve the
adults, you know, we serve children. So I'm here to make their life
better. And, in doing that, like I show up to work every day,
knowing that even though like I'm in the headquarters, like
everything I'm doing supports the job of the local offices to help
those people. How can you not love the job you're doing when like
you're helping other people...
- So we need to do that. Hold them, as long as
you can. Push them to get that GED then when they get out there,
they can go figure the rest out. Like, even if they flunk the first
year of college, they will figure it out by the second year. And
then they have three more years to bump up their brains. But we
shouldn't just be, yeah, leaving them in high school and letting
them just like they don't listen. So because of that, you know,
that whole love thing can preach. That's where it comes in
surrendering and just loving them more where they are; pushing them
through to the end. I see that so differently now for our
boys.
Gloria is on a personal journey
to become financially debt free and to find her one true vocation,
calling and life’s work that she have been called to, apart from
her 9-5 career as a Budget Analyst; and besides being a
mom.
You’ll find her creating content
around personal finance, child development and spirituality;
sharing on how to develop and organize well as an adult and from a
young age so that we can learn our inner voice and own our
power.
Her mission: To Help Equip,
Empower, and Engage Children, Youths and Families To Develop Well
And Be Organized In all Areas of Life.
Learn more about Mopelola Gloria
Fagbemi:
Website:
www.shelovesgoodthings.com
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/shelovesgoodthings
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/shelovesgoodthings/
Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/loving-the-work-you-do/id1503836991
YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmceahmP2S7J2wYxYF9wxiw